If you have a child who is particularly strong-willed and stubborn, this is for you. Science says that many of the characteristics of stubbornness are also the qualities that make some leaders great.
Children are all different, and some of them are headstrong from birth. This can be very challenging. But there are things you can do to deal with your stubborn child and avoid clashing with them.
- Acknowledge their feelings and point-of-view, even if you don’t agree with them. The child needs to learn to trust you so that they can actually listen to what you are saying.
- Always be kind. Everyone is more likely to listen to someone who’s being kind and friendly than shouting at them. Your child is no different.
- Keep calm and keep your voice down. This will avoid escalating the situation.
- Don’t shout at the child, especially in front of others. Whisper, if need be. Never punish a child in public.
- Use praise often. When your child does as you have asked, tell them they’ve done well. Everybody responds positively to praise, and children are no different. They’re likely to repeat behavior that is praised.